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How to be less shy? Practice.
You ever see Lawrence of Arabia? There's a scene where Lawrence puts a match out on his hand, and does not react. Then another man does it, and says that it hurts. Lawrence says of course it hurts, the trick is just not minding that it hurts.
Understand that the worst thing that can happen is you getting rejected. Rejection sucks. But the shitty feeling doesn't last forever. You get rejected, adjust, and move on to the next love interest. Practice this and I guarantee your fears won't end, but they won't be as bad. You'll begin to get more confident because, if she says no, you're exactly where you started. Maybe you could have done something different. Maybe she'll never be interested. Don't freak out about it. Just move on.
And chances are, rejection is going to happen a lot. This is likely to happen many times in your life, it's happened to me more times then I can count. But the times that rejection doesn't happen, well, that's what this is all about isn't it? You say you like one particular girl, but she might not want you. It sucks, but that's just how it is. If you can be friends without being romantic or catching feels, great. If not, move on. If you're really that horrible of a person that no woman will like you (1. I don't think you are and 2. this is incredibly unlikely even if you are), then you might benefit from some introspective meditation, where you consider what you're doing wrong, but it seems you've already narrowed down your problem to your anxiety and shyness. So for now, it seems focusing on improving that is the goal.
tl;dr to counter your problem requires work. Hard work. Shitloads of hard work. It's not going to be easy, but it's going to be worth it.
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Want real advice? Treat them like any of other friends, if there is any attraction she will laugh at all your stupid shit, find any excuse to be around you and keep physically touching you. And remember there is no such thing as the friendzone, 1.) It just means she's not attracted to you and 2.) You can always change that with one well timed kiss.
there is no such thing as the friendzone, 1.) It just means she's not attracted to you and 2.) You can always change that with one well timed kiss.
1. That means you're in the friendzone
2. Or you could be charged for sexual assault... being physically forceful isn't the way to go.
...learn to read the situation. You sound like a virgin, "oh I don't kiss girls cause I don't want to be forceful". Within certain situations that arise, emotional flare and going for a kiss can be acceptable, even desired by both people. It's all about timing man.
And besides who in their right mind charges their friends with sexual assault? It's not like your kissing a random stranger, if she is your friend then she will most likely shrug it off or just advoid you worst case scenario.
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McNugget wrote:
...learn to read the situation. You sound like a virgin, "oh I don't kiss girls cause I don't want to be forceful". Within certain situations that arise, emotional flare and going for a kiss can be acceptable, even desired by both people. It's all about timing man.
you sound like a borderline sex offender
nothing wrong with kissing girls, but going in for a kiss without asking permission can be construed as sexual assault
McNugget wrote:
And besides who in their right mind charges their friends with sexual assault? It's not like your kissing a random stranger, if she is your friend then she will most likely shrug it off or just advoid you worst case scenario.
worse case scenario is you get charged with sexual assault, just because someone is your friend doesn't mean they should ignore your unwanted advances. Imagine if you had a male friend who went in for a kiss with you. How would you react?
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Mr.GoldGames wrote:
Develop an "I dont give a shit" attitude and then you wont give a shit about being shy. It honestly helps a tad bit, but the best thing to do is to just go for it. Push yourself to just go out there and be friendly. Shy people are shy because they dont know how to make a good impression. Its always good to be shy with new people at first, but once you know what they find funny, joke about those things. Dont be afraid to act like a complete dumbass sometimes. Just be you, but be a funny genuine you.
For my own advice, i suggest Down+B usually works as a counter.
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My best advice honestly would be to quit preparing. Just go in there and be you man. Stressing over it and trying to prepare perfect answers will just worry you more and make you nervous. When you interview, you just want to be calm and cool, and be yourself. Give honest answers. All you've got to know is who you are and what you'be done, because that's all they want to know, and everyone knows about themselves. Every interview is different and impromptu usually, because they interview goes on the path that you take it. The interviewer asks questions about you, so you choose that path. Sure they might have questions they pool from, but if you answer "I've never had any work experience" they won't ask you "So tell me all about your last job," so really you can't really prepare for that except knowing yourself. So be you. If you want to prepare, then learn stuff about the company. Learn their website, what they stand for, stuff like that.
Another thing, to make sure they see you are interested, is to view it like you are interviewing them as well. This interview is likely the last chance you have before getting the job, just as it is for them hiring you. So you gotta make sure this what you want. Ask them questions back, information about their company you couldn't find or understand. Don't ask about pay, not for a job like this. But general info stuff, like maybe about what you'll be doing, the work environment, etc.
Hope this helped, GL. I'm pretty much a king at impromptu so for interviews I almost never prepare. But eh, not everyone's like me. Still, hope this helped.
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Birthstone wrote:
McNugget wrote:
...learn to read the situation. You sound like a virgin, "oh I don't kiss girls cause I don't want to be forceful". Within certain situations that arise, emotional flare and going for a kiss can be acceptable, even desired by both people. It's all about timing man.
you sound like a borderline sex offender
nothing wrong with kissing girls, but going in for a kiss without asking permission can be construed as sexual assault
McNugget wrote:
And besides who in their right mind charges their friends with sexual assault? It's not like your kissing a random stranger, if she is your friend then she will most likely shrug it off or just advoid you worst case scenario.
worse case scenario is you get charged with sexual assault, just because someone is your friend doesn't mean they should ignore your unwanted advances. Imagine if you had a male friend who went in for a kiss with you. How would you react?
Has this guy ever kissed someone? Obviously if you go in for a kiss, she can lean back, which will show you she doesn't want to do anything. I'm sure leaning in for a kiss only to be rejected will only get the other person a bit ticked off, but nothing consisting of sexual assault lmao. Unless you literally steal a kiss from her and run away, i'm sure you won't get into too much trouble. Just a little embarrassment when she asks, "what are you doing" or some other shit.
EDIT: I just saw where you put, "Without asking for their permission". Lol because girls think it is attractive for a guy to ask "uhhhh m..m..m..may I kiss you m..m..my q..q..queen" If you cannot read the situation leading to a kiss with someone to know for a fact that they want to kiss, you are too young to be kissing or you should just stay in your little cave to spare us the embarrassment.
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...learn to read the situation. You sound like a virgin, "oh I don't kiss girls cause I don't want to be forceful". Within certain situations that arise, emotional flare and going for a kiss can be acceptable, even desired by both people. It's all about timing man.
you sound like a borderline sex offender
nothing wrong with kissing girls, but going in for a kiss without asking permission can be construed as sexual assault
McNugget wrote:
And besides who in their right mind charges their friends with sexual assault? It's not like your kissing a random stranger, if she is your friend then she will most likely shrug it off or just advoid you worst case scenario.
worse case scenario is you get charged with sexual assault, just because someone is your friend doesn't mean they should ignore your unwanted advances. Imagine if you had a male friend who went in for a kiss with you. How would you react?
Has this guy ever kissed someone? Obviously if you go in for a kiss, she can lean back, which will show you she doesn't want to do anything. I'm sure leaning in for a kiss only to be rejected will only get the other person a bit ticked off, but nothing consisting of sexual assault lmao. Unless you literally steal a kiss from her and run away, i'm sure you won't get into too much trouble. Just a little embarrassment when she asks, "what are you doing" or some other shit.
EDIT: I just saw where you put, "Without asking for their permission". Lol because girls think it is attractive for a guy to ask "uhhhh m..m..m..may I kiss you m..m..my q..q..queen" If you cannot read the situation leading to a kiss with someone to know for a fact that they want to kiss, you are too young to be kissing or you should just stay in your little cave to spare us the embarrassment.
Finally another guy that fucks. Smh at these virgins giving dating advice.
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