DazzlingDazzaD94 wrote:
I`d say the best advice I can give you mate is just put yourself out there no matter what and don`t mind what other people may think of you. Sometimes in life you just got to take the bull by the horns by being confident in yourself and understanding the person you are before anything else. What you should do is ask yourself what makes me shy ? or why do I have a fear of speaking with others ? Once you have a answer mate it`ll help you since it`ll open up a wide variety of solutions that you can maybe used that will help aid you in the right direction.
I`ll tell you a story I used to be shy when it came to giving a presentation back in high school but you know one day I came to my senses and just said fuck it, I`m gonna step up and have the courage and not be afraid to be the person I truly am inside and you know what once I stepped out there and went with the flow I felt a hundred times better about myself. Sometimes the trick is to not overthink things when you come to a uncomfortable social situation that you put yourself in. Just having confidence in yourself mate is more than enough to overcome your shyness.
If you want some building blocks and starting steps for a goal to work towards I`d say start yourself off in a smaller social situation and then from there maybe say or do something that you normally would be afraid to do weather it`s around a group of friends your hanging out with or maybe your friends that you socialize with online. Just start small and I know it`ll practice but you`ll get there eventually and the more you do it the more you`ll build your confidence up in becoming more confident in the person you are. Trust me mate putting yourself out there a few times in smaller situations will be the boost you need to help overcome from being shy. Just remember keep your head held high, keep pushing yourself and remember that you a valuable person no matter what your mind may tell you. Hope this helps mate.
Take this guy's advice into situation. He's provided me with advice a lot in college (and yes, we know each other in real life, and I'm the one who introduced him to EgN). This guy has the right advice for you, and it doesn't matter if you take it or not, but what he said does help, and even though I didn't go through with that date, it made me comfortable with myself around them, and talking to them.
I'm not one to give advice when I needed to, and in all honesty, being shy will take a while in getting out of, but as he said, produce a list, a list of goals you want to accomplish, and do them 1 by 1 whenever you feel comfortable.