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I`d say the best advice I can give you mate is just put yourself out there no matter what and don`t mind what other people may think of you. Sometimes in life you just got to take the bull by the horns by being confident in yourself and understanding the person you are before anything else. What you should do is ask yourself what makes me shy ? or why do I have a fear of speaking with others ? Once you have a answer mate it`ll help you since it`ll open up a wide variety of solutions that you can maybe used that will help aid you in the right direction.

I`ll tell you a story I used to be shy when it came to giving a presentation back in high school but you know one day I came to my senses and just said fuck it, I`m gonna step up and have the courage and not be afraid to be the person I truly am inside and you know what once I stepped out there and went with the flow I felt a hundred times better about myself. Sometimes the trick is to not overthink things when you come to a uncomfortable social situation that you put yourself in. Just having confidence in yourself mate is more than enough to overcome your shyness.

If you want some building blocks and starting steps for a goal to work towards I`d say start yourself off in a smaller social situation and then from there maybe say or do something that you normally would be afraid to do weather it`s around a group of friends your hanging out with or maybe your friends that you socialize with online. Just start small and I know it`ll practice but you`ll get there eventually and the more you do it the more you`ll build your confidence up in becoming more confident in the person you are. Trust me mate putting yourself out there a few times in smaller situations will be the boost you need to help overcome from being shy. Just remember keep your head held high, keep pushing yourself and remember that you a valuable person no matter what your mind may tell you. Hope this helps mate.

Author:	Terminator [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 12:07 pm ]
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hello for those who don't know me, i'm Terminator. I'm a 17 year old guy that loves playing CSS and fucks around. Some might see me as an asshole but i'm actually a really shy guy that never knows what to say the the people he likes.... most of time i trow a dumb insult at it and laugh.this works with my friends but recently i have promised myself that i would be less shy and finaly have fun in life. this is especially because i just started texting a girl again that i like and with who it didn't end well last time cause i was to shy to do anything...... so now, my problem: I am a shy guy, trying to be less shy but i need advice and like a goal/a hold on so i can actually have a reason to follo up and to step up to my own promise. so please, if anybody got advice would love to hear it, have had the advice to just say "yolo and just do it" from somebody i trust. but would love to hear everybodies opinion aswell. idc if u call me a pussy or anything i just ask honesty.. also, if u know how i can set a goal please tell me

Author:	Tricky [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 12:19 pm ]
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Talk to me whenever bud.

Author:	Pro Hop [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 12:20 pm ]
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Up the bum no babys ~~~ Dyno2k17

Author:	Minion [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 12:37 pm ]
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Don't listen to these virgins. One thing to remember = everyone is nervous you aren't the only one so accept that and just yolo through it.

Author:	DazzlingDazzaD94 [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 1:09 pm ]
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I`d say the best advice I can give you mate is just put yourself out there no matter what and don`t mind what other people may think of you. Sometimes in life you just got to take the bull by the horns by being confident in yourself and understanding the person you are before anything else. What you should do is ask yourself what makes me shy ? or why do I have a fear of speaking with others ? Once you have a answer mate it`ll help you since it`ll open up a wide variety of solutions that you can maybe used that will help aid you in the right direction. I`ll tell you a story I used to be shy when it came to giving a presentation back in high school but you know one day I came to my senses and just said fuck it, I`m gonna step up and have the courage and not be afraid to be the person I truly am inside and you know what once I stepped out there and went with the flow I felt a hundred times better about myself. Sometimes the trick is to not overthink things when you come to a uncomfortable social situation that you put yourself in. Just having confidence in yourself mate is more than enough to overcome your shyness. If you want some building blocks and starting steps for a goal to work towards I`d say start yourself off in a smaller social situation and then from there maybe say or do something that you normally would be afraid to do weather it`s around a group of friends your hanging out with or maybe your friends that you socialize with online. Just start small and I know it`ll practice but you`ll get there eventually and the more you do it the more you`ll build your confidence up in becoming more confident in the person you are. Trust me mate putting yourself out there a few times in smaller situations will be the boost you need to help overcome from being shy. Just remember keep your head held high, keep pushing yourself and remember that you a valuable person no matter what your mind may tell you. Hope this helps mate.

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Author:	SpazzO [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 1:12 pm ]
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Confidence can be artificial. Fake it till you make it, man. Key is not giving a fuck what anyone thinks. Just love yourself and be yourself. If lady can't accept that, it ain't worth your time bro. Just be yourself... Don't be anything you're not.

Author:	Mr.GoldGames [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 1:32 pm ]
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Develop an "I dont give a shit" attitude and then you wont give a shit about being shy. It honestly helps a tad bit, but the best thing to do is to just go for it. Push yourself to just go out there and be friendly. Shy people are shy because they dont know how to make a good impression. Its always good to be shy with new people at first, but once you know what they find funny, joke about those things. Dont be afraid to act like a complete dumbass sometimes. Just be you, but be a funny genuine you.

Author:	Central [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 1:47 pm ]
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DazzlingDazzaD94 wrote: I`d say the best advice I can give you mate is just put yourself out there no matter what and don`t mind what other people may think of you. Sometimes in life you just got to take the bull by the horns by being confident in yourself and understanding the person you are before anything else. What you should do is ask yourself what makes me shy ? or why do I have a fear of speaking with others ? Once you have a answer mate it`ll help you since it`ll open up a wide variety of solutions that you can maybe used that will help aid you in the right direction. I`ll tell you a story I used to be shy when it came to giving a presentation back in high school but you know one day I came to my senses and just said fuck it, I`m gonna step up and have the courage and not be afraid to be the person I truly am inside and you know what once I stepped out there and went with the flow I felt a hundred times better about myself. Sometimes the trick is to not overthink things when you come to a uncomfortable social situation that you put yourself in. Just having confidence in yourself mate is more than enough to overcome your shyness. If you want some building blocks and starting steps for a goal to work towards I`d say start yourself off in a smaller social situation and then from there maybe say or do something that you normally would be afraid to do weather it`s around a group of friends your hanging out with or maybe your friends that you socialize with online. Just start small and I know it`ll practice but you`ll get there eventually and the more you do it the more you`ll build your confidence up in becoming more confident in the person you are. Trust me mate putting yourself out there a few times in smaller situations will be the boost you need to help overcome from being shy. Just remember keep your head held high, keep pushing yourself and remember that you a valuable person no matter what your mind may tell you. Hope this helps mate. Take this guy's advice into situation. He's provided me with advice a lot in college (and yes, we know each other in real life, and I'm the one who introduced him to EgN). This guy has the right advice for you, and it doesn't matter if you take it or not, but what he said does help, and even though I didn't go through with that date, it made me comfortable with myself around them, and talking to them. I'm not one to give advice when I needed to, and in all honesty, being shy will take a while in getting out of, but as he said, produce a list, a list of goals you want to accomplish, and do them 1 by 1 whenever you feel comfortable.

Author:	GoopSauce [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 1:56 pm ]
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Don't listen to these little virgins. Be as confident as you can be man and just go for it. Girl's aren't as scary as you think and if you are shy about stuff that is just going to turn them off to you. You are amazing in your own ways and if someone can't see that then they don't really deserve you anyways so be confident in yourself and the things that make you, you.

Author:	Mr.GoldGames [ Mon Oct 09, 2017 2:14 pm ]
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GoopSauce wrote: Don't listen to these little virgins. Be as confident as you can be man and just go for it. Girl's aren't as scary as you think and if you are shy about stuff that is just going to turn them off to you. You are amazing in your own ways and if someone can't see that then they don't really deserve you anyways so be confident in yourself and the things that make you, you. Ill have you know I've seen a girls ankle before, so thats a plus in some cultures. But yeah good advice.

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